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Unusual Things to Be Grateful For Today

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It’s a hazy, overcast and rainy day. It begins with the usual doldrums, early alarms, carpools, the mundane existence of a suburban mom, but that’s where it ends. As I sip my first cup of heavenly coffee in solitude (I know, how did I do that?) I quietly thank my Creator for all the wonderful gifts I have in my life. I’m a pretty spiritual person, and taking in the meditation (originally a challenge, but you dear fans know I’m committed here) I have found some crazy things to be thankful for in my life. This is by far a condensed list, but here it is dear reader. I hope it makes you think, smile and reflect on the goodness in your own life.

First, I want to spit this one out. I am grateful for anger, anxiety and even the guilty feelings I have. By embracing my darker side, I can be a better me, and that what we all want, right? Ordinarily, you count your blessings, your luck, your health, etc. but focus for a moment on those bottom feeding fears and things that crawl in your gut making you mad. These very powerful emotions often overcome the better feelings that we are always thanking God for bestowing upon us. These powerhouse feelings of no perfect angst and fear actually help you to become a better version of yourself, and so, be thankful. Anger often fuels creativity, Heaven knows my poetry bleeding from my pen is prolific when I’m peevish. Guilty feeling spark the whole self-improvement thing you’ve got going on. Think about that donut you scarfed alongside your coffee. That guilt is going to take you an extra 20 minutes at the gym, thereby bettering your health and fitness goals. Anxiety is more complex, but the feelings associated with it, worry and self-doubt, they cause you to shoot for the moon. You will aim higher in order to prove yourself and achieve your heart’s desires.

InsomniaNow before you go calling those men in white coats, I am thankful for insomnia. I am serious. Night owls of the world rejoice and be grateful, because your teeny tiny dreaming state signals higher intelligence. Thank you Dr. Spock (yes, a little geeky Trekkie) for showing me how to be rational and logical with a minute of sleep. In all honesty folks, the London School Of Economics published a study that those lucky people with above average IQ’s (they’re saying over 125) tend to go to bed later, and to function on less sleep (and more coffee) than those with IQ’s in the normal range (120).

Speaking of coffee, logically, I must resort to chocolate. I adore it, dark, light, milky white. Give me a Godiva Ballotin and I am the happiest human out there. Of course a Hershey bar works the same way, and UK peeps, those Yorkies and Freddos just kill me with pleasure. But am I grateful for chocolate? Yes and no. I am grateful for chocolate with quinoa! Yes, you read that correctly! So you think I’m a total kook now, but quinoa is super healthy for you. Chocolate fixMost of my family balks at the mention of this protein packed delight no matter how I serve it. However, some genius human has found a way to put it into chocolate! And very delicious chocolate , I might add. It is sublime- dark rich , high quality, organic chocolate with a Rice Krispies texture. It tastes almost like a Crunch bar, but better. I must give thanks here to my amazing friend Ilene for turning me onto this decadent delight. I keep it cracked up in tiny pieces in a baggie in the freezer for emergency fortification. Alter Eco has given me a childhood thrill for my adult palette. And yes, this goes really well with coffee. ☕️ Cocoa bean, coffee bean … It’s all happiness in ground, baked, roasted and brewed deliciousness.

OK, hugs. These are my personal favorite. My very dear friend Crystal will tell you, we are both born higher score. Big, hearty, whole body, squishy bear hug huggers. A life without hugs is a sad and lonely one indeed. A bibles home is an unhappy home, and though I claim my mother smothered me from childhood to adulthood, I am grateful. Hugs from people you care about are the absolute best things ever, and they’re free. By the way Crystal (and I know you’re reading this) beware, I’m heading your way soon, so warm up those huggy arms!

PaletteI am very grateful for color in the world. Some of you know that even though writing is my truest passion, I like to dabble in art. Though mostly in charcoals, when I had the time, there was nothing better than a fresh palette of Winsor and Newton Guache or Acrilycs and a large clean canvas. I admit, black is still my favorite color, but I know that color has power. Bright colors make the world pop and they can even change your mood. I mean, who can be grumpy in a sunny yellow room? Besides, a black sunflower just won’t make you feel sunny and warm, so color is essential, and I am thankful to be able to see it, live it, feel it, taste it.

I mentioned that today was a particularly overcast day. Rain has been on and off, and I actually love it. I am grateful for rain. Not the light, misting, drizzly and drippy kind, but the full on fierce, someone just unzipped the sky kind of rain. RainTempestuous and cleansing, there is nothing better than the fresh, dewy smell after a good storm. Rainy days are comforting and I appreciate being able to cocoon myself in the house, curled up in comfy sweats, coffee in hand and a journal or a good book. Maybe even a nap. The thunderous roaring rain is like a lullaby.

Alright then, aglets. You are now racking your brain, what is an aglet, did she mean to say eaglet? Nope. You too are grateful, I’m sure, for aglets. Most of you have no clue what these are, but if you ever had two crazy cockatiels that roam free in your house, you learn pretty quickly. You know those little plastic tubes in the ends of your shoelace? Yes, that’s right, the hard, plastic tip. That my friends, is an Agletsaglet. My free range chickens (as I like to call them) have waddled across tiled expanses to literally chew off and decimate the aglets in our shoes Just try relaxing a trainer after the aglet is gone… uh huh…nearly impossible. So I am grateful, dear friends, for aglets. I did say this would be an unusual list.you were warned.

Last one for today lovelies. I am grateful for YOU! Super sparkly grateful to you, my dear readers who return as virtual friends to visit. You read my blog, probably shake your head a few times, and sometimes, just sometimes, take me seriously. I’m so thankful, and I love it when you comment. It’s like we’re enjoying a coffee together. So to those of you sharing your own inspirations with me, thank you! You are awesome! To everyone else, thanks for reading, and I hope you’ll join the coffee break conversation too.

Tying up some loose ends, I want to thank each and every one of you. There are so many more things that we are all grateful for, many of them quite unusual. and that’s really cool. I hope you all have some different things to be thankful for in your life and on your journey to happiness. I hope that I inspire you, and I thank you in advance for coming back (subliminal messaging 😉😃)

I’d love to hear about some of the uncommon things in your life you are grateful for. Feel free to share, and the weirder, the better!

Something A Little Different

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This week, Jews around the world, from the most secular to the ultra orthodox will be celebrating Passover. It is a time to recall the story of the Exodus from Egypt, of the many miracles God gave to ensure religious freedom. Jewish tradition calls for two nights sitting around the table at the Seder (which means order), reading this story from the Haggaddah. It is a feast of freedom not just for the Jewish people, but for the soul.

I myself have  many memories of Passover. As a child, I missed out on most of the preparation, and therefore my grandmother’s comments about still being enslaved (only now to the myriad of yummy delights) in the kitchen literally passed over my head. Thirteen souls, uncles, aunts and cousins, descended each April upon my grandparents home. A sunny two bedroom in a Florida retirement community, we were pretty creative about setting up our own spaces. Upon arrival from the airport, we were assaulted with the scents of cinnamon, almonds and roasts; all with the warning ” Do NOT eat these yet, they’re for Passover.”

Seder nights my grandparents opened their home to friends and neighbors who were unable to travel to their families, or had no family, or just wanted to be a part of the boisterous meal that would ensue. The sunroom was transformed into a banquet hall of folding chairs and tables, pillows and candles. The crisp, salty smell of matzo ball soup permeated the house as each guest arrived. Our tradition was to read round robin from the Haggadah, the book containing the story of Exodus and the many mystical commentaries associated with it. Many humorous moments ensued, as seven children asked questions and added their own commentaries. Perhaps my favorite comment was from my then three year old cousin. We were talking about our forefathers. Suddenly she piped up loudly, “what’s? Four fathers? Who has four fathers? I only have one!”

As children, we followed the rituals, then overstuffed on roast, kugel and wine-cake, we competed to see who could stay awake the longest. I remember Seder nights lasting to the wee hours of the morning. One year we succeeded in staying awake so long, that we went into overdrive. With a second wind we had a massive pillow fight, dancing, falling and giggling long after we should have been asleep. The adults let us go at it while they cleared the tables to make room for the cots, flip chairs and other makeshift beds.

So why is this night different now?

As an adult there is the preparation. We should be forewarned. Being conservative or more in the Jewish faith means that your house turns upside down. It is spring cleaning like you’ve never seen. Every couch cushion, every track in the doors, the baseboards, cupboards, etc. is scrubbed and vacuumed. Even clothing gets sorted and put aside for donation. It is a massive undertaking. Perhaps the biggest challenge is the kitchen. The extensive preparation and the rituals involved mirror the intensity of the Passover story itself. No other holiday in the Jewish religion requires as much preparation or strict adherence to the many extra rules and restrictions of Passover. Even the most reform Jews make an effort to get rid of all leavened products, and bring out the special Passover china for meals. For the more religious, it involves deep cleaning the kitchen, clearing the pantries and breaking out the completely different (or new) sets of cutlery, dishes, pots and pans. It often means covering the kitchen counters with contact paper for more than the eight days, because after all, someone needs to cook the meals.

So what is it all about really? Besides faith, one of the biggest ideals in Judaism is the idea of “Tikkun Olam.” This literally translates to mean “repair the world.” It is a basic underlying theme, even at my children’s school, along with those seven habits (thanks Steven Covey, http://www.theleaderinme.org/the-7-habits-for-kids). In modern Jewish circles, the idea of Tikkun Olam has become interchangeable with the ideas of social action and the pursuit of social justice. (Credit here to an article on myjewishlearning.com) It is really sort of abstract, as it is more than just helping those in need. In the 16th century, Rabbi Luria stated that the world is made up of good and evil, and to balance the two, mankind must be involved in repairing the world. (Something I actually remember form high school) I take this to mean that as humans walking and living on this planet, we are responsible for its welfare. We have to take ownership for our actions to improve society world in general. I think Tikkun Olam explains environmentalism, charity and justice. It’s probably what propelled my crunchy granola self to be so inclined with PIRG groups, the Coalition for Safe Living, and the pipe dream of working on the Rainbow Warrior. I just want to save the whales, really.

Let’s talk about helping those in need. In the Passover Haggaddah it says, ” let all who are hungry come and eat. Let all who are in need come and share in the Passover meal.” I don’t see any delineation of religion, just the desire to help, to foster good will to mankind, and help those less fortunate. I do not actually know anybody who would invite a total stranger to their home, but maybe it’s time to consider those in our own communities who kitty be in need. Perhaps it is financial, or they are just alone with no place else to be, need is not always hunger.  Perhaps someone is simply curious. One of my closest friends, unaffiliated but very spiritual has spent several Seder nights at our table.  Need is the desire to be included, to share traditions, to help the lonely and unaffiliated feel less oppressed. After all, the Passover story is about freedom from oppression. Today, in such transient times, with many who are new to communities, out of work, or out of faith, we need to open our hearts just a bit. Begin with repairing the confidence of those in your community.  Smile at your neighbor, invite them for a coffee, or a meal; volunteer, invite, motivate. It’s a life brightener for everyone.

This year, as we celebrate this Spring holiday with family and friends, I hope to infuse both a sense of tradition and one of social awareness. For Jews, freedom is always tied to responsibility. We need to examine our lives and determine what still enslaves us, (literally and figuratively) that prevents us from reaching our true potential. This Passover, I am freeing myself. I will not stress over complicated recipes, but will focus on the bigger picture. I think the story of Passover is really one of Divine grace. It is about Gods love for the undeserving, about offering opportunity for self improvement in all aspects of life. The story of Exodus is a call to action, meant to intensify our belief and appreciation for being “chosen” and redeemed, I am choosing freedom over oppression, and I plan to use my powers this year to help fix the little things in the world that are within my reach. My Tikkun Olam starts here.  So for all of you who are hungry, I’ve got some extra chairs.

 

 

Bonus:

Savta’s Mock Oatmeal Raisin Cookies

2 cups matzo farfel                          4 eggs

2 cups matzo meal                          2/3 cup oil

1 1/2 cups sugar                               1 cup raisins

1 1/2 cups chopped nuts              1 teaspoon cinnamon

preheat oven to 350 degrees F.

In a large bowl mix together all dry ingredients except raisins. In a small bowl beat eggs and oil together, add to dry ingredients. Blend well. Add raisins. Drop by rounded spoonfuls onto a greased cookie sheet. Flatte the mounds a little. Bake for 15 minutes or until edges begin to brown.